Obligatory Pre-Wedding, Post-Planning Advice June 13, 2012Posted by jeneypeney in a little help from my friends, weddng madness.
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In 7 days, I will be driving to Wisconsin to pick up my marriage license and invade my parent’s house in Milwaukee.
In 9 days, I will be standing in front of The Actual holding a bouquet of ribbons practicing what will be the first day of our lives together as joint-filing tax citizens. (And eating pizza… lots of pizza!)
In 10 days, I will be walking down a grassy aisle
after taking a shot of whiskey with my dad toward the greatest man I could ever have ever had the blessing to love me. (And eating pulled pork… all the pulled pork!)
In 11 days, I will be on a plane to Colorado to enjoy my new husband in some of the most beautiful landscape in the country.
Being a self-proclaimed veteran of wedding planning – I have been planning this shin-dig for a year and a half now, you know – I would like to pass along some of the advice I have been given that has helped me survive this whole process. You can take it or leave it – but I promise you these tid-bits have helped me immensely by stopping me from committing homicide, suicide, or any other –icide that would land me in prison or a grave.
1) The wedding day is just that – a day. One meal, 24 hours, and a singular pair of underwear dirtied. Marriage is a lifetime of these. Keep perspective.
2) The ceremony is all about the couple. Be as picky and selfish as you want in planning it. The reception, though? Has absolutely nothing to do with you two. It is the biggest party you can throw for all your closest family and friends – remember that.
3) What are your two to three most important goals of the day? If everything else goes wrong and these things go right, your day was successful.
4) How do you want your wedding party to remember you in the days leading up to and during the big day? Keep this in mind when you start freaking out about your timeline.
5) The only thing you should NOT skimp on when budgeting is your photographer. It is the ONLY part of your wedding that truly lasts forever.
To be completely honest, if I had a second chance to plan this wedding all over again, my first reaction would be to haul ass to Las Vegas and get hitched on the pirate ship in front of Treasure Island.
But in reality? It doesn’t matter where, how, or when I sign that piece of paper. It actually doesn’t matter to me if I sign that piece of paper at all. The only thing I care about is having The Actual by my side until the day we are old, senile, and arguing over what breakfast cereal to buy at the grocery store.
The dress, the cake, and the pulled pork sandwiches are all just incredibly awesome frills for an incredibly lucky day.
Letters To Life : The “I-have-too-much-crap-going-on-right-now-to-write-anything-coherent” Edition March 28, 2012Posted by jeneypeney in all growed up, grad school, in it to gym it, insanity, letters, life, weddng madness.
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No, I am not going to freak out over the wedding stuff you keep bringing up. I WILL freak out over you continuously telling me not to freak out.
All my love,
Please take a chill pill, woman
As much as I am looking forward to you, I need the honeymoon more.
Vegas was a better idea
I underestimated you. You are infinitely more difficult to complete when I am working full time. And planning a wedding. I concede defeat.
I’m never getting my degree
Dear grad school,
Ho-lee shit, dude.
I’m not in undergrad anymore, Toto.
Dear Calf Muscles,
Get your shit together and quit cramping up on me after a measly mile.
There are not enough bananas and pickle juice in this world
Just get your shit together.
Blogging is not productive
Something old… something new… June 23, 2011Posted by jeneypeney in all growed up, life, schmoop, weddng madness.
I wasn’t going to really post much about my wedding planning here – mostly because having this blog and my twitter and my tumblr and my facebook makes me narcissistic enough – but I know there are a few people who wanted to know what my busy bridezilla self has been up to.
Considering we are now officially 365 (+1 for the leap year!) days away, I figured I would start letting the blogosphere in on the planning 🙂
June 23, 2012
Since I work in collegiate athletics and his family owns a farm, we had to work around the travel/practice schedules of my teams, home games, and planting/harvesting seasons. This left us with the dead of winter in January/February or the middle of summer in June. I never thought I would end up as June bride… but then again I never really thought I was going to be a bride at all 🙂
We decided to pick a place that is half-way between both families. The venue is absolutely perfect for us, too. It’ll be on a working farm; ceremony in the fields, dinner in the shop, and dancing in the barn. Pure, simple, and fun!
Christin Berry, owner of Blue Martini Photography
Seriously, Christin is one of the most amazing people I have ever known and the most amazing person I have had the pleasure to work with during the whole process. She’s an awesomely talented photographer and rocked the shit out of our engagement pictures. She’s also just been there for me when I needed to cry or vent about ANYTHING. If you need photos taken for any reason, give her a call! She’s beyond wonderful!
Pig Roast. ‘Nuff said. (Seriously though… BBQ and regular pulled pork, roasted chicken, and three sides for under $10 a person? Hell to the yes!)
- Disc Jockey/Officiant
The best thing about the DJ? He’s also our minister. We got a 20% discount for booking both the DJ service and the ceremony services! They also have a custom page for each wedding where guests can request music to be played at the reception – as long as it is not on our “do not play” list, it’ll be put on the playlist!
I will continue to post things as they come along… flowers, centerpeices, rings, and all things borrowed and blue 🙂