Women’s Writes; Use Your Voice April 5, 2010Posted by jeneypeney in a little help from my friends, girl problems, life, the 'f' word, women's writes.
When the Criminal Homicide and Abortion Amendments bill passed in Utah at the beginning of March, both Shine and Marie reached the end of our rope when it came to women’s rights and issues consistently being pushed backwards rather than moving forwards. They decided to have a day in which any blogger could write about women’s rights and issues and bring them to the forefront so that we could speak up and make all of our voices heard.
Here is my story. Know it. Write it. Say it.
I recently discovered this blog called Violence Unsilenced. (For those of you, who are not aware of what it is or its mission, please go check it out.)
As I was reading the heart wrenching and unthinkable stories of all the amazing and brave women that came forward to speak out about abuse, rape, harassment, and everything else that makes you go ‘buggh’, I came to a sad and stark realization; I was one of the silent ones.
You see, I was once a victim of sexual abuse. I am thankful I at least told my parents about it and although no legal action was ever pursued, I am glad I told detectives and police my story as well. But I haven’t said a word about it since.
I have mentioned it to close friends when the issue comes up and there is a little blurb about it in my 100 Facts. But for over a decade I have consistently brushed my pain and all the deep seeded problems the abuse caused me under the rug. I’ve been pretending it never happened and that I am fine.
But I’m not fine. I’m damaged and I’m hurt.
I am not alone, either.
While hundreds of women have shared their stories on Violence Unsilenced, there are hundreds of others who haven’t said a word. Hundreds of women who think ‘no one will believe them anyway’ or it was ‘their fault’; and that is the most heart wrenching fact of all.
Ladies (and gentlemen) – we all have a voice. Some are sopranos. Others are more of a baritone. Some of us use them to make catty comments about the girl across the way with the tacky tank top while others use them to express our profound and earth-shattering opinions of Tiger and Jesse.
Now we need to use them to speak out against abuse and rape and harassment and all those things that make us go ‘buggh’.
Whether it be abuse you have suffered yourself or the story of someone you care about, this not something we can ignore.
We are not all okay and we won’t just ‘get over it’.
Tell your story. Use your voice. It’s the most powerful weapon you’ve got.